You are not here to be popular…

‘I am enough, just as I am’

Contrary to what society and the media would have you believe, you are not here to be popular. We live in this fallacy that somehow being or wanting to be popular means we are ok, we are acceptable, we are worthy and so on. We expect others to give us our self worth, our value, and our self esteem. When we give our power over to others we can only expect failure and disappointment.

We set up social media accounts, and we do our best to get as many likes and followers as we can, because that means we are popular, we are liked, so everything in our world is wonderful. Except it’s not, is it? We are the instigators of our lives. How we feel about ourselves cannot be validated by external means. Self worth, self respect, and self esteem, can only be achieved by internal processes, by how we feel about ourselves, and the way we speak to ourselves.

You are here to be you, whoever you are. You are meant to live your life the way you choose, not the way others choose for you. No amount of likes and followers will give you self fulfilment or self acceptance. Looking for others to validate the very person you are, instead of being your own best friend, is like using a sticking plaster. Sooner or later it will fall off to reveal your vulnerable self, that then continues to seek external validation, and so the cycle repeats and repeats.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to realise that only you have the power to validate yourself, no one else can do it for you. Only you walk in your shoes, so why would you give your power away to others. If you really think about it, what does it mean to be popular? Why would you allow others to tell you that you are good enough, that you look good enough. You are not here to be popular or liked you are here to be just you.

If you are a person that seeks the approval of others, the best advice I can give you is, get to know yourself, work on your self development, meditate, listen to hypnotic cd’s to reprogram your mind of all the negative chat. Stop looking for approval on social media, and be your own best friend. When you stop buying into this popularity contest, then you truly become free, because external approval becomes unnecessary.

4 thoughts on “You are not here to be popular…

  1. I love this! Just like a shooting 💫, others’ approval has an enchanting glow and can do wondrous things but the effect will dissipate as quickly as it appeared. The trick is to ignite the star that’s within all of us, and to never let its flame fade. Then, we’ll always be good enough – how can we not be? – and not merely addicted to those around us making us feel good enough. As we know, addicts will always want more and more until it ultimately destroys them.

    Another great post, Eileen 🙂

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