Contrary to what society and the media would have you believe, you are not here to be popular. We live in this fallacy that somehow being or wanting to be popular means we are ok, we are acceptable, we are worthy and so on. We expect others to give us our self worth, our value, and our self esteem. When we give our power over to others we can only expect failure and disappointment.
We set up social media accounts, and we do our best to get as many likes and followers as we can, because that means we are popular, we are liked, so everything in our world is wonderful. Except it’s not, is it? We are the instigators of our lives. How we feel about ourselves cannot be validated by external means. Self worth, self respect, and self esteem, can only be achieved by internal processes, by how we feel about ourselves, and the way we speak to ourselves.
You are here to be you, whoever you are. You are meant to live your life the way you choose, not the way others choose for you. No amount of likes and followers will give you self fulfilment or self acceptance. Looking for others to validate the very person you are, instead of being your own best friend, is like using a sticking plaster. Sooner or later it will fall off to reveal your vulnerable self, that then continues to seek external validation, and so the cycle repeats and repeats.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is to realise that only you have the power to validate yourself, no one else can do it for you. Only you walk in your shoes, so why would you give your power away to others. If you really think about it, what does it mean to be popular? Why would you allow others to tell you that you are good enough, that you look good enough. You are not here to be popular or liked you are here to be just you.
If you are a person that seeks the approval of others, the best advice I can give you is, get to know yourself, work on your self development, meditate, listen to hypnotic cd’s to reprogram your mind of all the negative chat. Stop looking for approval on social media, and be your own best friend. When you stop buying into this popularity contest, then you truly become free, because external approval becomes unnecessary.
2020 is going to be a wonderful year, full of inspiration and self belief. It is going to be a year where you make more inspired decisions, because you believe in yourself, more than you ever have before. The life you want to create always starts with you. When you have unwavering belief in yourself, you decide what you want for yourself and your life.
To become your own inspiration, you have to believe in yourself, respect yourself, and trust that only you know what is best for you. You don’t let other people’s opinions bring you down. You don’t let other people’s belief systems and ideologies dictate to you what kind of life you live. You are a free thinker, not a sheep thinker.
You are your own inspiration because you get to know yourself. You work on the parts of you that require change. You are not afraid of change, you positively embrace it, with a knowing that the greatest version of you is yet to come.
You are your own inspiration because you value yourself, and you know that you are worthy of all the blessings and love that the universe can bestow on you, and you accept it all with gratitude.
When you believe in yourself your mindset changes. You don’t let what has gone before drag you down. You learn from it and are grateful for the many lessons you have been taught.
When you are an inspiration to yourself you show the world who you really are. And you make no excuses for being authentically you.
2020 is a new dawn, a new age of inspiration and truth, when you believe you achieve. You are your own inspiration, you always were, and you always will be.
New Year, New You. I know we hear it every year, but this new year is different. It is the year to find out who you really are, why you came to this earth, what your path and purpose is.
What is your passion, what fires you up, what shines your light. If money was no object what would you do. Don’t listen to the chitter chatter in your mind, listen to the messages in your heart. Your mind lives in the fear, your heart lives in the love. Fear destroys, love creates.
This year do things differently, take risks, expand yourself. You can’t keep doing the same things expecting a different outcome. Risk being seen, go against the grain. The only acceptance you need is from you, and only you can complete you.
Another year goes by, with it’s twists and turns, and ups and downs. How has it been for you? What did you learn about yourself? Did you triumph over adversity? Did you crash and burn, only to rise from the ashes? Did you find that part of you that you felt was missing? Or did you find out who has your back, and who you can count on?
Life, what is this life we have been given. We never know do we – what lies ahead, what is to come. That is probably a good thing. We have to let each day unfold, in this adventure we call life. It is not easy living everyday, but live we must.
What gets me through each day is gratitude. Being grateful for all I have, and not focusing on what I don’t have. I think about the joy and the love I have in my life, I don’t focus on the pain and the loss. I am but a very simple girl at heart. I don’t have big wants and desires. With me less is more. I love the simple things in life, nature, walking and talking, special friends, my son and my two granddaughters.
2019 has been an amazing year. As I sit in my wicker chair next to my wood burner, mug of tea in hand, I think about all that has gone before this year. What I have achieved, what needs work, and what is still left to do. I took up painting – which still amazes me. I started this Blog – which I love. I met someone very special. A new granddaughter was born this year. And new spiritual truths continue to be revealed to me. So a real year of transformation and change for me.
We made it through the rain. Somehow we survive, we flourish and we carry on to another year, another adventure of life. What’s in store for 2020 – who knows, but, you can be sure it will be full of promise, challenges and love. Here’s to the next instalment of life…….
Christmas is supposed to be a time of joy and togetherness for families, but the sad reality is for a lot of families it is a time of conflict. Differing beliefs, egos, ideas, opinions, all of us jostling for position, to matter, to be heard, can all cause family conflict.
We can put status, and affluence above simple love and family ties. Instead of seeing each other as individuals, each with our own strengths, weaknesses, issues and fears, we expect everyone to live up to our own ideals and ideologies. We forget that we are all different just doing our best, trying to make our way in the world, and make sense of it all.
Our differences in our personalities, our belief systems, our desires, and wants for our own lives, is what brings variety and growth for each of us. Differences in each other can allow us to see things in a new light, which we may not have seen before. We are not all meant to be the same, but we come here for the common good of each other – if only we could see that.
We are all responsible for the way we behave. Only each individual can control their conduct, their thoughts and their behaviour. Love is the core of everything. We are only here to love each other, be respectful, show compassion, and be kind to one another. Everything else is just smoke and mirrors – the layers of self that need to be shed.
It is not that we don’t have a strong family foundation to begin with. It’s just the differences and belief systems are outweighing that very foundation. We must learn to respect each other’s beliefs and life choices, and not to impose our beliefs and life choices on anyone else. It is not acceptable to believe that we are right, and they are wrong.
When families fall apart, ask yourself, what is important, what really matters. Is it our ego self, or is it the basic concept of love and togetherness, and the sharing of each other’s lives, regardless of anything else that really has no substance or merit. The way back to harmony for any family is to love, accept, respect, and not to judge each other. Only then can a family truly heal.
You are not the story you tell. The truth is we all have a story, but it is not really about you. It is a part you play to experience different things, to enable you to evolve to a higher consciousness, and a higher vibration.
We hold on to our story for dear life, it can become a part of us we don’t want to let go. We some how use it as a means of identification. We label ourselves with it. We use it as an excuse for not really living, and we measure our worth and value by it.
If my life had been better………….
If I didn’t have such a bad childhood……….
If only I had got the job I wanted………..
If my family was richer…………
If only my mother loved me……..
And so on, and so on.
We all have difficult lives. I have yet to meet anyone that hasn’t had issues in their lives. It is designed that way. Without conflict there is no growth, and without love there is no growth.
The ebb and flow of life (our story), is a tool to help you to remember who you really are. Your story is part of the game to wake you up to your spiritual self. We can look at our lives as a book, with pages and chapters. And for every lesson, issue or experience we go through, we get to turn the page and move on.
Your story is never about you. It is just a vehicle to take you home.