When life gets tough, it is easy to give up, thinking that things will never change. For every tough period, there are also great periods of life. It is how we perceive things that matter and make a difference.
If you always expect the worst you will get the worst. If you ride out the life storm without resisting it, the impact of the storm will have a lesser impact on you. Resistance to life and it’s tough times really is futile. It is better to just ride the stormy wave of life and surrender and accept it.
We forget that good and bad times are here to teach us life lessons. So if we viewed our life from that perspective, our life here could and would look very different. Remember nothing lasts forever. The flow of life has peaks and troughs, and it is the very reason we exist here in human form. If life was to be wonderful all the time there would be no point in it all.
When life gets tough for me, I just deal with each day. I make lists of things I need to do. Not elaborate lists, just simple things that I need to do to get me through the day, like having a shower, or hovering up my house. I make the lists because it keeps me focused, and I tick the things off one by one as I do them. I am gentle with myself, I don’t put undue pressure on myself. I have learnt that resistance to what is going on is futile. So the saying ‘go with the flow’ is very apt.
It is in those times when we feel that life is at it’s worst, that we grow the most, we find out how resilient and strong we are, we learn that we can weather anything, and at the end of the day we will always be ok.
Sometimes life can seem very cruel and we may want to shout out ‘give me a break’. But by sticking by ourselves and never giving up regardless of how tough things are, we are always rewarded with insight and knowledge.
So when life gets tough for you, settle down and ride that stormy wave of life. Because when the storm has abated, a renewed you will emerge.
What is success? What does it mean to be successful? What does it mean to you? Do you want to be successful at all costs? Are you willing to walk all over others to get it, and then when you have achieved it – then what? Do you stand on your pedestal surveying the people and the world below you?
Society tells us we have to be successful. To portray an image to the world. Societal success means lots of money and possessions . You become validated and achieve status and standing in the world – you have arrived. Societal success always comes at a price.
There is nothing wrong in being successful, it is the type of success that matters. To be morally successful in a world driven by fear and greed is not easy. It means going against the grain, and not buying into society’s flawed ideals of what society tells you, who you should be, and what you should be.
Moral success is not measured by wealth or possessions, it is measured by the impact you have on the world and on other human beings, and on the impact you have on yourself. It is about revealing your true self, and your unique gifts and abilities to the world. Are you a positive influence, do you treat others and yourself with kindness, love, and compassion? Do you think and lead with your heart? Do you bring your gifts and abilities to the world in a positive and loving way? Do you serve others or are you here to just serve yourself? The impact you have on another person is one of the most important aspects of our lives here, it really is the only currency that matters.
How many of us believe that only money brings success, and means you are successful. To know what success means to you, ask yourself why you do something. It is for the money, the adulation, for the praise, or do you do it from your heart to give something wonderful to the world. Making heart based decisions about what you want to achieve in this world, may seem overly sentimental. We are taught to always make decisions from our minds, devoid of emotions. Because from the moment we are born, we are viewed as commodities, and an income stream. We are only supposed to be here to strive for bigger and better things.
In a society that is built on fear, appearances matter. You must buy into having a successful job, and all the trappings, otherwise you are viewed as a failure. It doesn’t matter how you get there, who you destroy and discard to achieve societal success, but get there you must. The question is, is it really worth it, do you ever really achieve success that way? Aren’t you forever chasing the carrot on the stick, never ever catching it? Does that kind of life ever bring fulfilment and contentment?
We have a situation at the moment being played out in the media involving Meghan Markle and Harry. Two individuals who are intent on being successful and wealthy at any cost. Both intent on destroying each others families to get it. Is that really success, to gain so much, but to cause immeasurable pain to others to achieve it. And as this situation continues to play out over the coming months and years, what price will they pay, to themselves and to their relationship, in their pursuit of societal success?
What if you just stopped for a moment and really thought about life. What if you started to make heart based decisions. Would you view your life and yourself differently? Can you imagine a society, a world, not built on fear and greed, but built on love. All of us making heart based decisions about ourselves and our lives. Each of us here to bring our unique gifts and talents to the world. We are all here for path and purpose, and we are all here to be morally successful in our own right.
Do you care how you achieve your success? Do you want to achieve societal success or moral success? One day in the distant future we will all leave this world, we will all leave a legacy, an imprint of our time here. The decisions and the actions we take can and will influence people for decades to come. What will your legacy be……….?
Contrary to what society and the media would have you believe, you are not here to be popular. We live in this fallacy that somehow being or wanting to be popular means we are ok, we are acceptable, we are worthy and so on. We expect others to give us our self worth, our value, and our self esteem. When we give our power over to others we can only expect failure and disappointment.
We set up social media accounts, and we do our best to get as many likes and followers as we can, because that means we are popular, we are liked, so everything in our world is wonderful. Except it’s not, is it? We are the instigators of our lives. How we feel about ourselves cannot be validated by external means. Self worth, self respect, and self esteem, can only be achieved by internal processes, by how we feel about ourselves, and the way we speak to ourselves.
You are here to be you, whoever you are. You are meant to live your life the way you choose, not the way others choose for you. No amount of likes and followers will give you self fulfilment or self acceptance. Looking for others to validate the very person you are, instead of being your own best friend, is like using a sticking plaster. Sooner or later it will fall off to reveal your vulnerable self, that then continues to seek external validation, and so the cycle repeats and repeats.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is to realise that only you have the power to validate yourself, no one else can do it for you. Only you walk in your shoes, so why would you give your power away to others. If you really think about it, what does it mean to be popular? Why would you allow others to tell you that you are good enough, that you look good enough. You are not here to be popular or liked you are here to be just you.
If you are a person that seeks the approval of others, the best advice I can give you is, get to know yourself, work on your self development, meditate, listen to hypnotic cd’s to reprogram your mind of all the negative chat. Stop looking for approval on social media, and be your own best friend. When you stop buying into this popularity contest, then you truly become free, because external approval becomes unnecessary.
2020 is going to be a wonderful year, full of inspiration and self belief. It is going to be a year where you make more inspired decisions, because you believe in yourself, more than you ever have before. The life you want to create always starts with you. When you have unwavering belief in yourself, you decide what you want for yourself and your life.
To become your own inspiration, you have to believe in yourself, respect yourself, and trust that only you know what is best for you. You don’t let other people’s opinions bring you down. You don’t let other people’s belief systems and ideologies dictate to you what kind of life you live. You are a free thinker, not a sheep thinker.
You are your own inspiration because you get to know yourself. You work on the parts of you that require change. You are not afraid of change, you positively embrace it, with a knowing that the greatest version of you is yet to come.
You are your own inspiration because you value yourself, and you know that you are worthy of all the blessings and love that the universe can bestow on you, and you accept it all with gratitude.
When you believe in yourself your mindset changes. You don’t let what has gone before drag you down. You learn from it and are grateful for the many lessons you have been taught.
When you are an inspiration to yourself you show the world who you really are. And you make no excuses for being authentically you.
2020 is a new dawn, a new age of inspiration and truth, when you believe you achieve. You are your own inspiration, you always were, and you always will be.
New Year, New You. I know we hear it every year, but this new year is different. It is the year to find out who you really are, why you came to this earth, what your path and purpose is.
What is your passion, what fires you up, what shines your light. If money was no object what would you do. Don’t listen to the chitter chatter in your mind, listen to the messages in your heart. Your mind lives in the fear, your heart lives in the love. Fear destroys, love creates.
This year do things differently, take risks, expand yourself. You can’t keep doing the same things expecting a different outcome. Risk being seen, go against the grain. The only acceptance you need is from you, and only you can complete you.