There is no going back

‘I am all I will ever need’

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but life sucks sometimes. Most of the time life isn’t an easy ride. It can be painful and hard, and if that wasn’t enough people can and will let you down. People sometimes think because you are very spiritual and wise that you have all the answers, that your life is all strawberries and cream, and love and light. Well it’s not. I wish I could say that when you become awakened to the realities of life, that things change for the better. Actually they don’t. In fact your life becomes harder because you know what is out there, and you know all of this reality is just pure nonsense.

You have to learn to really rely on yourself, to really have your own back. Because the chances are most of your friends and family will still be asleep to the realities of life. So you find yourself alone, an outcast, and that is when the real work begins. Once you have opened the box you can’t put it back, authenticity is calling you, and keeps calling until you listen. You soon work out that you have to be all you will ever need.

We are all spiritual people, just most of us don’t realise that, and the ones that do carry the burden of knowledge. Never really feeling like you fit in, because for the most part you don’t. We live in a society that is fake, and is built on lies and greed. When you know the truth about life how do you fit into that. I think one of the hardest parts of living in this world is to be really honest with yourself about how your life is going to be. I knew that by being authentically me I would lose friends and family. It can be a heavy price to pay for living in the truth.

I didn’t realise how much I would lose, and if I am honest there is a part of me that had I known what the price was for my awakened state, I would have kept the lid on the box shut. The world owes you nothing. We are here to create our lives, and through a lifetime we start over many times. I have had to start my life again, without many of the people that I love, because they turned their back on me. Does it mean you should become angry and bitter? No. It means becoming the opposite of what you receive, you forgive and you continue to love them. And in time you see that, that is real spiritual growth. But sometimes, just sometimes you wish for the life you had before.

There is no going back, you can only move forward in your life, and deal with whatever life throws at you. The only person that you can really rely on is you, and the only person you will ever need is you.

When life gets tough

‘Resistance is futile’

When life gets tough, it is easy to give up, thinking that things will never change. For every tough period, there are also great periods of life. It is how we perceive things that matter and make a difference.

If you always expect the worst you will get the worst. If you ride out the life storm without resisting it, the impact of the storm will have a lesser impact on you. Resistance to life and it’s tough times really is futile. It is better to just ride the stormy wave of life and surrender and accept it.

We forget that good and bad times are here to teach us life lessons. So if we viewed our life from that perspective, our life here could and would look very different. Remember nothing lasts forever. The flow of life has peaks and troughs, and it is the very reason we exist here in human form. If life was to be wonderful all the time there would be no point in it all.

When life gets tough for me, I just deal with each day. I make lists of things I need to do. Not elaborate lists, just simple things that I need to do to get me through the day, like having a shower, or hovering up my house. I make the lists because it keeps me focused, and I tick the things off one by one as I do them. I am gentle with myself, I don’t put undue pressure on myself. I have learnt that resistance to what is going on is futile. So the saying ‘go with the flow’ is very apt.

It is in those times when we feel that life is at it’s worst, that we grow the most, we find out how resilient and strong we are, we learn that we can weather anything, and at the end of the day we will always be ok.

Sometimes life can seem very cruel and we may want to shout out ‘give me a break’. But by sticking by ourselves and never giving up regardless of how tough things are, we are always rewarded with insight and knowledge.

So when life gets tough for you, settle down and ride that stormy wave of life. Because when the storm has abated, a renewed you will emerge.

Success

‘To be successful you only have to be you’

What is success? What does it mean to be successful? What does it mean to you? Do you want to be successful at all costs? Are you willing to walk all over others to get it, and then when you have achieved it – then what? Do you stand on your pedestal surveying the people and the world below you?

Society tells us we have to be successful. To portray an image to the world. Societal success means lots of money and possessions . You become validated and achieve status and standing in the world – you have arrived. Societal success always comes at a price.

There is nothing wrong in being successful, it is the type of success that matters. To be morally successful in a world driven by fear and greed is not easy. It means going against the grain, and not buying into society’s flawed ideals of what society tells you, who you should be, and what you should be.

Moral success is not measured by wealth or possessions, it is measured by the impact you have on the world and on other human beings, and on the impact you have on yourself. It is about revealing your true self, and your unique gifts and abilities to the world. Are you a positive influence, do you treat others and yourself with kindness, love, and compassion? Do you think and lead with your heart? Do you bring your gifts and abilities to the world in a positive and loving way? Do you serve others or are you here to just serve yourself? The impact you have on another person is one of the most important aspects of our lives here, it really is the only currency that matters.

How many of us believe that only money brings success, and means you are successful. To know what success means to you, ask yourself why you do something. It is for the money, the adulation, for the praise, or do you do it from your heart to give something wonderful to the world. Making heart based decisions about what you want to achieve in this world, may seem overly sentimental. We are taught to always make decisions from our minds, devoid of emotions. Because from the moment we are born, we are viewed as commodities, and an income stream. We are only supposed to be here to strive for bigger and better things.

In a society that is built on fear, appearances matter. You must buy into having a successful job, and all the trappings, otherwise you are viewed as a failure. It doesn’t matter how you get there, who you destroy and discard to achieve societal success, but get there you must. The question is, is it really worth it, do you ever really achieve success that way? Aren’t you forever chasing the carrot on the stick, never ever catching it? Does that kind of life ever bring fulfilment and contentment?

We have a situation at the moment being played out in the media involving Meghan Markle and Harry. Two individuals who are intent on being successful and wealthy at any cost. Both intent on destroying each others families to get it. Is that really success, to gain so much, but to cause immeasurable pain to others to achieve it. And as this situation continues to play out over the coming months and years, what price will they pay, to themselves and to their relationship, in their pursuit of societal success?

What if you just stopped for a moment and really thought about life. What if you started to make heart based decisions. Would you view your life and yourself differently? Can you imagine a society, a world, not built on fear and greed, but built on love. All of us making heart based decisions about ourselves and our lives. Each of us here to bring our unique gifts and talents to the world. We are all here for path and purpose, and we are all here to be morally successful in our own right.

Do you care how you achieve your success? Do you want to achieve societal success or moral success? One day in the distant future we will all leave this world, we will all leave a legacy, an imprint of our time here. The decisions and the actions we take can and will influence people for decades to come. What will your legacy be……….?

Be your own inspiration…..

‘I inspire myself with self belief’

2020 is going to be a wonderful year, full of inspiration and self belief. It is going to be a year where you make more inspired decisions, because you believe in yourself, more than you ever have before. The life you want to create always starts with you. When you have unwavering belief in yourself, you decide what you want for yourself and your life.

To become your own inspiration, you have to believe in yourself, respect yourself, and trust that only you know what is best for you. You don’t let other people’s opinions bring you down. You don’t let other people’s belief systems and ideologies dictate to you what kind of life you live. You are a free thinker, not a sheep thinker.

You are your own inspiration because you get to know yourself. You work on the parts of you that require change. You are not afraid of change, you positively embrace it, with a knowing that the greatest version of you is yet to come.

You are your own inspiration because you value yourself, and you know that you are worthy of all the blessings and love that the universe can bestow on you, and you accept it all with gratitude.

When you believe in yourself your mindset changes. You don’t let what has gone before drag you down. You learn from it and are grateful for the many lessons you have been taught.

When you are an inspiration to yourself you show the world who you really are. And you make no excuses for being authentically you.

2020 is a new dawn, a new age of inspiration and truth, when you believe you achieve. You are your own inspiration, you always were, and you always will be.

Who are you……

‘Tame your mind, open your heart’

New Year, New You. I know we hear it every year, but this new year is different. It is the year to find out who you really are, why you came to this earth, what your path and purpose is.

What is your passion, what fires you up, what shines your light. If money was no object what would you do. Don’t listen to the chitter chatter in your mind, listen to the messages in your heart. Your mind lives in the fear, your heart lives in the love. Fear destroys, love creates.

This year do things differently, take risks, expand yourself. You can’t keep doing the same things expecting a different outcome. Risk being seen, go against the grain. The only acceptance you need is from you, and only you can complete you.

So who are you, why are you here?

We made it through the rain

‘This adventure we call life’

Another year goes by, with it’s twists and turns, and ups and downs. How has it been for you? What did you learn about yourself? Did you triumph over adversity? Did you crash and burn, only to rise from the ashes? Did you find that part of you that you felt was missing? Or did you find out who has your back, and who you can count on?

Life, what is this life we have been given. We never know do we – what lies ahead, what is to come. That is probably a good thing. We have to let each day unfold, in this adventure we call life. It is not easy living everyday, but live we must.

What gets me through each day is gratitude. Being grateful for all I have, and not focusing on what I don’t have. I think about the joy and the love I have in my life, I don’t focus on the pain and the loss. I am but a very simple girl at heart. I don’t have big wants and desires. With me less is more. I love the simple things in life, nature, walking and talking, special friends, my son and my two granddaughters.

2019 has been an amazing year. As I sit in my wicker chair next to my wood burner, mug of tea in hand, I think about all that has gone before this year. What I have achieved, what needs work, and what is still left to do. I took up painting – which still amazes me. I started this Blog – which I love. I met someone very special. A new granddaughter was born this year. And new spiritual truths continue to be revealed to me. So a real year of transformation and change for me.

We made it through the rain. Somehow we survive, we flourish and we carry on to another year, another adventure of life. What’s in store for 2020 – who knows, but, you can be sure it will be full of promise, challenges and love. Here’s to the next instalment of life…….

When Families Fall Apart……

‘Love Liberates’

Christmas is supposed to be a time of joy and togetherness for families, but the sad reality is for a lot of families it is a time of conflict. Differing beliefs, egos, ideas, opinions, all of us jostling for position, to matter, to be heard, can all cause family conflict.

We can put status, and affluence above simple love and family ties. Instead of seeing each other as individuals, each with our own strengths, weaknesses, issues and fears, we expect everyone to live up to our own ideals and ideologies. We forget that we are all different just doing our best, trying to make our way in the world, and make sense of it all.

Our differences in our personalities, our belief systems, our desires, and wants for our own lives, is what brings variety and growth for each of us. Differences in each other can allow us to see things in a new light, which we may not have seen before. We are not all meant to be the same, but we come here for the common good of each other – if only we could see that.

We are all responsible for the way we behave. Only each individual can control their conduct, their thoughts and their behaviour. Love is the core of everything. We are only here to love each other, be respectful, show compassion, and be kind to one another. Everything else is just smoke and mirrors – the layers of self that need to be shed.

It is not that we don’t have a strong family foundation to begin with. It’s just the differences and belief systems are outweighing that very foundation. We must learn to respect each other’s beliefs and life choices, and not to impose our beliefs and life choices on anyone else. It is not acceptable to believe that we are right, and they are wrong.

When families fall apart, ask yourself, what is important, what really matters. Is it our ego self, or is it the basic concept of love and togetherness, and the sharing of each other’s lives, regardless of anything else that really has no substance or merit. The way back to harmony for any family is to love, accept, respect, and not to judge each other. Only then can a family truly heal.